Quality attracts quality. No not just in relationships, although it applies, but in everything you do. If you want the best of the best, you have to carry yourself in such a way that allows you to receive that. I am obviously a girl so I can only give you a girl’s perspective, but I always pray that this blesses you even if you are a gentleman, & though this particular one is directed to my ladies- guys you can learn a lot too 😉
- Dress how you want to be addressed.
NO JUDGMENT ZONE OKAY!? But being treated like a lady and carrying yourself with a higher standard has a lot to do with how you dress. I love shorts and clothes and all things fashion but there is a line between fashion and being cute…. And just revealing your entire package to the world. You do not have to reveal everything you have to offer. The world does not need to know what your body looks like and how big how small…… etc. Being classy and acting like a lady means dressing like it too. I can’t expect people (not just guys) to respect me if I walk around dressed like I don’t have a mission, a calling, a greater purpose than just eye candy. Mmmm.
“Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman,
and loose enough to show you’re a lady.”
2. The words you speak, become the house you live in.
This is probably one the hardest ones for me out. I am impulsive, I speak when I want, i say what I want and I half the time don’t care how it comes across. But this isn’t always (most of the time) right. I truly believe that the tongue has the power of life or death and we do not understand the significance of it. I can create the atmosphere around me. I can tear or build others up. I can cause people to react to me a certain way because of how I speak of myself. My words, and yours, have that much power. Think of your life as the house…. What kind of house do you want to live in? Do you want one filled with drama, pain, low self esteem, negativity? Or do you want a house full of life, boldness, courage, love, and strength? A lady thinks of these things and plans her words well 😉
3. And you, you scare people because you are whole all by yourself.
You don’t need anyone to complete you, to survive, to pay your bills, to honestly…. Do anything. People should ADD to your life but should never be the reason you are alive and breathing. Part of being a lady is strengthening your ability to be independent. Of course I want to be loved the way I love, of course I like gifts and acts of kindness and all of it, but I don’t necessarily need it to be okay. I am well able to dream, grow, develop, and cultivate what I want from life all by myself. Anyone walking with me should ADD to that, not BE that.
4. A clean home is a happy home.
Literally & figuratively. I am in the process of getting rid of things in my room and in my home that I don’t use, (bc this is probably my longest lasting mountain LOL I will be working on this one till I die) It takes up space, makes it easier for me to make a mess out of more, and it’s clutter. I can’t tell you how stress- free it is getting into my car and not having a million and one things to sort through just to find my purse, or trying to remember where those cute shoes are. Such a waste of time and embarrassing!! Also…. Remember how your life is the home? Get rid of anything that is mess in your home, whether that is relationships, friendships, environments, habits, routines…. Whatever is not working- get rid of it.
5. Keep your heels, head, and standards high.
I LOVE HEELS, so yes. But on a serious note, those standards… This has happened to me so many times. I really liked a boy so I would forget everything I was taught, or everything I wanted to be. This is just ridiculous lol you don’t have to compromise your purity, your personality or your dreams for the sake of a significant other. NO. If he is the one for you, then guess what?! You won’t need to change your standards so they can catch up. They should already be running the race next to you, and if anything AHEAD of you, leading the way.
You will constantly be changing and growing. Your convictions will also change depending on your seasons and where you are in life. When I was in my teens, I was totally against shorts and bathing suits and all types of crazy strict dressing rules for MYself. And now that I am older, I love bathing suits and I will maybe wear a crop top. People are all different and not everyone will always agree, but my decisions are for me and for my circle of influence. Do the decisions I make today affect the girls who look up to me, my future daughters, and sisters across the nation? I truly believe they do and I would never want to cause people to question my beliefs, my dreams, or my calling as a lady. Obviously, you can’t please everyone!
Carry yourself like you are worthy, like you have a purpose, and like you represent something bigger than yourself, because you do. The focus isn’t to attract a man, although that’s a plus(hallelujur), the purpose is to live a life of quality, one you can be proud of for genenrations to come.
Forever dancing in His love,
Leslie Tatiana ❤
| Outfit |
| Jeans: Banana Republic (similar) | Blouse: Banana Republic | Shoes: Target (similar) | Necklace: Forever 21 |
You have a lot of good points, loved #3. I do disagree with the implication of “acting like a lady” by dressing, as most Chriatians call it, modestly. God gave us beauty. It’s a shame weve been conditioned to conceal our bodies instead of celebrate and ENJOY them. The phrase ladylike implies timidness and submission. And as women, we inadvertantly attract all walks of life. Whether we’re wearing a burlap sack or a bikini, it doesn’t matter. To be a magnet for quality relationships, we should project strength, compassion, and warmth. Spotless houses and high heels have nothing to do with it.
I hope my comments werent offensive, I’m just extremely passionate about women’s issues and get tired of all these rules we have to follow “or else were doomed to be alone forever”, basically.
Not offensive at all! Thank you for your response. I do agree with you because obviously no matter what we wear or do, we will still attract attention. & that’s why I said it’s about your own convictions and where you are in life because I can’t decide for everyone what is appropriate to me. But this piece wasn’t centered around relationships, it was centered around a “quality” lifestyle and I think that the way you carry yourself in how you dress is important. A clean home is important as well to have the best quality life possible. My room and car tend to be a total mess and though I can deal with it, I lose a lot of valuable time searching for things or sometimes just want to get home to a clean space. I never center my posts around dating or getting a significant other, unless the post is specifically for that! We weren’t only with the purpose of finding a mate or to satisfy men. We have such a greater purpose than just that! ❤